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25 October 2012 @ 10:58 pm
Did it! Finally caught up with minerva_fest!

As I was doing that, cleaning and packing things away and television... I'll start with the TV, since I was very impressed.

I found and caught up on the new series Emily Owens, M.D. to find quickly into the series that there was an out (pretty-well-adjusted) lesbian WOC character (with natural hair! ♥) to be BBFs with the main character! While I'm always looking for more lesbianism in shows (anyone shocked? anyone?), I'm always particularly looking for more diverse lesbianism that represents the broader community.

Also watched Underemployed, but the stuff I'll mention didn't happen quickly on and should be considered spoilers (in case anyone wants to watch), so I'll put that under a cut. First, it's a bunch of college friends the year after they've graduated college (so, uh, kinda where I am) and finding their lives not to be as they expected. Looked like three girls and one guy, not super diverse, but one is a stunning young Asian American woman who caught my attention because she's still a virgin a year after college has ended. Through the episode we see her meet an old (male) college friend of hers and we see what could be flirting, all while his boss stares on and we're not quite sure why. Later the young woman (sorry, still don't have their names down) gets a call to meet for drinks and the viewer assumes it's the guy--but it's actually his boss, who is a gorgeous WOC character (again with natural hair!! ♥)--who starts very clearly flirting! And within no time we see the main character is interested, and seconds later, we hear some very happy sexy-time sounds and see a broad, tender smile on the new lover's face. Cue Kiwi!squees all over the place. I'm also thrilled because as I was watching the first half I thought, "Alright, 5 college friends. One of them at least has to be queer a little bit, right? Gender or romantic/sexual-attractions wise? Please? Huzzah!

So I've been pretty darn happy with the new shows I decided to check out. I'm always hoping for the television I watch to be less white and heteronormative, so getting to see that play out is fantastic. And the reason I mention natural hair thing is because I support the movement. I don't talk about it as well as some people do, but I've talked with one of the teenagers in my congregations (who is Black--and that's the term she uses) about it and heard about how she feels pressured into chemically straightening her hair, which she's been doing for years now. She told me she didn't before and that she liked it, but now that she's a teenage cheerleader in high school she feels to have hair "more like everyone else". And wishes her nose were thinner, and all this stuff...and I just hate that, because she's beautiful and I wish society at large could see the beauty in those traits rather than making her feel the need to change them. So I guess it comes down to being part of the diversity that I like seeing--acknowledgement of the human form and lifestyles within a positive light. It's important.

So when I see it, I get happy.

The rest of my day didn't feel happy--I got a bit weepy, which is surprising, but I had my dog--and soon I'll be throwing my bags into the car and heading to Providence with another big load. The rest of my clothes. Soon it'll be my desktop computer and my bicycle, and that'll be that.

So that's me, checked in!

(I'm sorry if I don't sound PC or respectful anywhere here; I do try to, and I know they can be delicate issues. I'm trying to educate myself as to the terminology--with everything, really, because I always want my language to be as inclusive as it can be.)
CaroRulescarorules on October 26th, 2012 11:26 pm (UTC)
I checked out underemployed and loved it!! gotta love a well written queer character. Well questioning from the previews..
Kiwi Crocus: Rainbow || Mug.cranky__crocus on October 30th, 2012 10:50 pm (UTC)
Glad you loved it! And I don't know if you watched both episodes, but I loved the way they treated it in the next episode, too. I'm not often that impressed with a coming out story; I liked this one.
twisted_knicker: Ren smokingtwisted_knicker on October 30th, 2012 10:48 pm (UTC)
I like natural hair too. Some women rock out the long weave and look amazing but I love natural, styled hair. It also gives a certain confidence that they don't need to look just like everybody else. I don't understand why everyone wants to look the same anyway.
Kiwi Crocus: RHPS || Don't dream it be it.cranky__crocus on October 30th, 2012 10:57 pm (UTC)
Oh, no, I totally love long weaves and even the look of chemically relaxed, if that's the choice the woman makes! For me it's the idea of pressure that's bothersome.

Just like, for example, the issue of body hair and shaving. I don't think that it should be treated as something trivial but also, somehow, be this huge taboo. There's the idea that every American woman needs to shave to be beautiful; we get that from all sorts of media outlets and many women believe it. I've even met women who would love not to shave but know they have to in order to feel beautiful to others. Do I think that everyone should stop shaving? No, totally not. I think everyone should have the choice to do with their body what they'd like, rather than feel super pressured into one decision (or even think they have a choice but in the end feel as though they don't).

Some people would always choose to shave. Some people would always choose a weave or chemical relaxation or whatever else. That's totally cool! It should be a choice! It should just be an equal choice, instead of something that one feels pressured to do to 'fit in' in some way.

That's why I support the natural hair movement. :D Just another issue for which I'm anti-conformative-pressure and pro-choice.

(There's also the fact that it's all wrapped up in racism and the idea of societal beauty being wrapped up in a sort of white ideal that fraks me off to no end, and having that be one of the driving forces for the pressure against natural hair.)
twisted_knicker: Uraharatwisted_knicker on October 30th, 2012 11:50 pm (UTC)
Oh, no misunderstanding. I knew what you were saying and was going with it in kind. I've actually had extensive conversations with a Haitian friend of mine who told me how Haitians feel they have to look white with the hair, the clothes, the attitude, etc. It gets worse when you think about the image of cars, home, "bling" and whatnot. It's ruining people who are trying not only to be white but American white.

I don't know a woman who has ever said "I wish I didn't have to wear weave." At least not to me.
Kiwi Crocus: TV || GA's || Callie || Research.cranky__crocus on October 31st, 2012 12:22 am (UTC)
I live in a Wonderbread area of America for the moment, sadly, so I don't get to have many conversations about it. Mostly just with the youth I mentioned, and she felt pressured about the chemical straightening; I don't think she'd ever considered weave.

It's ruining people who are trying not only to be white but American white.
Good point, especially on the American white.

I've never had a conversation with someone about wearing weave so yeah, definitely not something I have experience with haha. I think I'll actually head off and research that!